Friday, November 30, 2012

FFF: A few of Enoch's favorite things

Here are a few of Enoch's favorite things these days...  Now I should say {on the record} that since he's obviously not old enough yet to write a paragraph listing his favorite things, I've chosen these things to be his favorites by a highly technical means..  mainly my mom intuition...  Maybe once he's old enough to be writing paragraphs, if he can recall what his favorite things were at this age, then we can compare his list to mine.   ;)   Until then, here is my list (in no particular order):


Favorite thing #1 these days is dogs.  He loves seeing dogs in photos, videos, and especially in person.  He has semi-learned how to make a panting noise when we ask him what a dog says, but when we actually see a dog, he makes the cutest sound!  I need to get it on video soon because it's too cute/hilarious!  He jumps/rocks up and down (usually he's being held in someone's arms) while exclaiming "woo, woo, woo" real fast.  It almost sounds like a combination between panting and "woof" {somewhat like what you might do if you burnt your finger on the stove and  you were blowing on it}.  The dog in this photo was in the backyard of a house we are considering buying.  He's a white lab that is incredibly good at fetching.  Let's just say that excitement would be an understatement to describe how Little Man reacted each time Hugh would launch that big stick and the lab would take off after it {Granny Sandy, this dog is up there with Otis on his fetching skills and enthusiasm.}.  



Favorite thing #2 these days is stacking rings.  This game entertains him for a long time now that he's able to easily put the rings on and take them off.  He is so diligent to put every ring on before he removes any, and if one rolls across the room, he stops playing and crawls over to retrieve it, brings it back, and continues stacking them.  It's slightly cute.   :)

A few things you may notice from the video:  
  • His right hand does most of the stacking.  I've tested this, and his left hand can stack, but it isn't as good at this skill yet, so the right hand is typically dominant.
  • The flat rings are easier than the others {that are more cone shaped} because they have a large, flat edge on both sides.
  • He prefers to hold 2 rings at a time (one in each hand) so that he's ready to stack the second as soon as the first is on.  



Favorite thing #3 is kissing, but you've all seen video footage of that.  :)  Anyway, Enoch loves giving kisses, blowing kisses, being kissed.. you get the idea...  One thing that has changed about his kisses recently is that they all come with sound effects.  He makes the same "m-m-m-a-a-h-h" for every single kiss he gives or blows.  It's pretty sweet.



Favorite thing #4 these days is playing "where's the baby?"  In fact, it's even more fun now because Little Guy just learned how to cover his eyes to "hide" when we play {we were playing this game by putting a towel over his head and then pulling it down to "find" the baby}.  Here's a quick video:





Favorite thing #5 is getting out of the house.  Enoch is incredibly social (although sometimes shy), and so he just loves getting his jacket and hat on because he knows we are most likely going somewhere that will have lots of exciting things to see... things like cars, people, animals, etc.  He is typically a quiet, observant little boy in public {except for his "off" days, which do come every once in a while}, and he is quite shy with most "new" people until he is able to recognize them, which usually takes 5-7 repeat visits.

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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Enoch live: Naked in November

We've been baking cookies all afternoon, and now our kitchen is HOT! Enoch got a bit pink-cheeked from the heat, so now he's walking around (half) naked... In November! ;) don't worry though, he'll have to get dressed before we go outside again.

I happen to love (half) naked babies because they are just oh-so ticklish, especially this one. And, I had to share this picture because I thought my little guy was pretty stickin' cute bear-chested in his cargo pants. :)
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Wednesday, November 28, 2012

R2g: Reminder

I just wanted to send a shout out to all of you ladies who plan to read along with me in our next book by Noel Piper: Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God...

So here's the message:  on your marks, get set, GO... GET STARTED READING!

:)  We'll have Chapter 1 read by this coming Monday, December 3rd, and I'll have a blog post about it written by then as well.   Chapter 1 is about Sarah Edwards, a {dead} lady I really respect for oh-so-many reasons.  I think you'll really enjoy reading about her life as much as I have.

If you need information about how to get a copy of the book, check out my last post about it here (you can buy it or read it for free via pdf).


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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

14 Weeks with #2

I just wanted to celebrate being 14 weeks pregnant with our 2nd baby this week.  Today I read that our baby is about the size of a lemon and is just learning how to suck his/her thumb and make facial expressions.  How sweet is that!?!?

And of course, here are some photos of my quickly-expanding pregnant tummy... which I feel like is expanding MUCH more rapidly this time than last!!

11 weeks


14 weeks
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Monday, November 26, 2012

3rd Annual Thanksgiving Meal

This year for Thanksgiving we were able to host our 3rd Annual Thanksgiving Meal!  This is one of our longest standing traditions as a family, and it was also one of Enoch's first annual "events" to do twice {besides his birthday, of course}.   Hugh and I absolutely love this event, and we both get excited every year when it rolls around.  Here are a few of our traditions for this meal:

  • eat a few traditional Thanksgiving dishes like turkey, dressing, and mashed potatoes with gravy
  • read a psalm 
  • share 1-2 things we are thankful for at the dinner table (everyone does this altogether)
  • write thankful cards (we let each guest write as many cards as they want & then we provide the postage to mail them to whomever they are thankful for... wherever that may be.  This year we mailed cards to Mississippi, Tennessee, California, Ghana, Iran, and China.)
  • play games afterward (games range from football to cards and puzzles)


international students from our FCN group
We began this tradition three years ago with our dear friends, the Skinners.  When the idea was first conceived, we were hosting a weekly event called "Friday Culture Night" in which we had snacks, tea/coffee and a few hours of conversation with international students about cultural topics.  So when Thanksgiving rolled around, it was only natural for us to introduce our international friends to a traditional Thanksgiving meal, as it is a big part of American culture.  We knew that most of them otherwise wouldn't have had a Thanksgiving meal.  {In fact, because Thanksgiving is ONLY celebrated in the US, this is sometimes an exciting "first" for international students.}  At the time, we had no babies {the Skinners now have a little girl around Enoch's age} and the Skinners lived in a spacious ministry house, just perfect for hosting a large Thanksgiving meal like this.  I recall splitting the cooking with Ashley and hosting around 15-20 international students plus a few American friends as well.  It was such a fun Thanksgiving party!!

Enoch's first Thanksgiving meal

Then, by the time the next Thanksgiving rolled around, both us and the Skinners had a baby!  I believe they had to travel that year, so we hosted the 2nd Annual Thanksgiving Meal at our tiny apartment.  We scaled it down a bit and had around 8 international friends join us that year, and even though it was slightly cramped, it was such fun anyway.  One of our friends was able to bring her mother {from China}, and she was so sweet to baby Enoch!



This year, for the Third Annual Thanksgiving Meal, we decided to plan our gathering on the Saturday before Thanksgiving in the mid-afternoon.  As always, we invited a few of our international friends (a few students and one new faculty member from Hugh's department with his wife).  We also invited quite a few American friends as well (mainly new friends from church), and they each chipped in by bringing a dish.  We had lots of good conversation, some tasty international dishes, and some delicious desserts!


This was our exceptionally long dinner table, seating around 16 people:

And here were all of our guests..  we had people from India, Iran, China, Mississippi, and of course Arkansas & N Dakota!





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Friday, November 23, 2012

FFF: A Thanksgiving Picnic at Eckie's Pond

Yesterday, for Thanksgiving, we had a small picnic at Eckie's Pond to enjoy some family time {We celebrated Thanksgiving last weekend with some friends, and we weren't able to make it up to visit my family like we usually do - although they were all very much missed!!}.  Anyway, we had heard that this pond had big koi fish that were fun for kids to feed, but since it's on campus, I've been hesitant to try and find parking during the week to visit it.  However, campus was e-m-p-t-y this week due to the holiday, and thus, parking was a breeze...  So we thought it'd make for a fun, relaxing lunch spot.

The pond was much bigger than I expected it to be {it's more than double what you can see below}, and there was a gentle, grassy slope to spread out on and eat.  The weather was perfect (upper 60's... thank you South Land!), and we had so much fun!!  



After eating, Enoch enjoyed playing with Hugh on the quilt before we went to see the fish.
sniffing faces

blowing kisses


Then Hugh put Little Man on his shoulders and carried him up there the whole time we fed the fish so that Enoch could have a good view.  We saw a few white and orange koi, all of which were 12"-15" long and eager to gobble up the crackers I threw.  Even though the water was a bit cloudy, they were still easy to for Enoch's eyes to follow due to their vibrant colors.  Enoch absolutely loved the combination of sitting up high + outside + family time + big fish.  :)

 
And did I mention that Enoch loved riding on Hugh's shoulders?  

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Thursday, November 22, 2012

The Littlest Medal


We have some real exciting news that we've been patiently waiting to tell for weeks now..  And I thought it would only be appropriate to let Enoch spill the beans, so without further ado...

Little Man is going to be a big brother!!!

And he's real excited...

...As are we!!  We are SO thankful that the Lord has blessed us with this new little life growing inside of me!  

To answer some typical pregnancy questions, we are due near the end of May; I am currently 14 weeks pregnant.  I have been more nauseous with this pregnancy than I was with Enoch, but not to the point of vomiting, thankfully.  We DO plan to find out the gender of this baby (unlike our plans with Enoch); until then we are affectionately calling him/her our "littlest", hence the name of this post.  And although we haven't fully decided where to give birth, right now we are planning to use a midwife who works at a clinic with other midwives and doctors in a (somewhat) nearby town because there is a shortage of well-trained home birth midwives in our immediate area.  



For any proud, excited grandparents who care to listen, this is a recording of the lovely little heartbeat we heard this Tuesday.  {If you've never heard one of these on the doppler, try listening for the "whoosh, whoosh, whoosh" sound that's going real fast.}





And lastly, here are a few more of my favorite pictures from our time on MSU's campus taking pics this week.


playing with his block on the brick wall

  

my two sweet men


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Thursday, November 15, 2012

Enoch Live: kisses for the grandmas

Enoch wanted to blow some sweet kisses to all of his lovely grandmas out there... although I guess that if any of his grandpas happened to catch a kiss or two, that'd be alright too.  ;)  {Sorry that I just used every version of "to, two, too" in one sentence!!  oops!}



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Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Hearty Italian Sausage Soup

This soup is DELICIOUS!!!  I especially love it in the fall because it is so hearty and has such deep flavors.  And, it's what I would consider a "one-pot wonder" because all you need is a soup pot!   {Which of course, means less dishes to clean up after cooking!!}
warm, deliciousness in a bowl


Ingredients:

  • 1 onion chopped finely
  • 1-2 cloves garlic, minced (I just use a few tablespoons from a jar of minced garlic that I have from the grocery store)
  • 1 pound spicy pork (or turkey) sausage (like the raw kind you can make into patties for breakfast)
  • 4-5 cups chicken broth
  • 3-4 lg red potatoes, chopped
  • 1/2 pound carrots, chopped
  • 2 cans stewed ITALIAN tomatoes, UNdrained (cut tomatoes up a little more, if desired)
  • 2 cans white beans, rinsed & drained
  • 1 Tbsp oregano
  • 1 Tbsp thyme


Directions:

  • In your medium soup pot saute sausage, onion, & garlic over medium heat until meat is done & onion is clear.
  • While that is cooking, chop potatoes and carrots, and rinse/drain beans
  • Drain fat from meat.
  • Add chicken broth, chopped potatoes & carrots, stewed tomatoes, white beans, & spices. (Add in a little water if needed to cover veggies.)
  • Cook on medium-high until it starts boiling & the potatoes & carrots become tender (maybe 10 minutes of boiling).
  • Turn the heat down & let it simmer 10 minutes, or until you're ready to eat it.
  • Serve & enjoy!



chopped veggies (onion was already chopped & cooking at this point)

sausage, onion, & garlic ready to be drained after sauteing

I used frozen chicken broth here, so I let it thaw in the pot for a few minutes before adding the veggies 

finished product (note that it fills my medium soup pot almost to the brim!!  If you like to add "extras" to soups, you might want to use your large pot.)


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Tuesday, November 13, 2012

A new kind of post: Enoch Live

"Enoch Live" is a new type of shorter post that I'm trying out for 2 reasons:
  1. Shorter posts are easier to write, so I can post more of them more often
  2. More posts means that our family {and friends} can keep up with Enoch's newest happenings... as they happen, not 3 weeks later because I was slow to get the photos off of my camera {not that I'm ever guilty of that or anything...}   ;)
So, as you may have already guessed, "enoch live" is basically intended to capture what's going down in Enoch's world live, as it happens.  It is my hope that these posts will be short, fun, and easy to read.  I'd appreciate any feedback from you guys as I go so that I can tailor each post to be relevant and hopefully even something you look forward to.   :)

So, what do you think?  Excited?  Any specific requests for certain types of "live" footage?


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Friday, November 9, 2012

Enoch Live: walking down the hallway

This morning, Enoch got tons of practice walking using the walker.  Hugh discovered that if you sit in front of him and scoot away, Enoch will try to catch you... while sometimes laughing hysterically.  ;)  So we did a lot of walking and scooting in the hallway (because it's by far the best place for walkers in our house).

And let's just say that I am certain it was a good work out for Little Guy because his morning nap has lasted 2 hours so far... and he's still going strong snoozing away in there!!

Here's a short video:




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FFF: Keeping a Clean House

Keeping a clean house is a tough job!  It's super challenging for me, and in fact, it's probably a challenge for most people.  So I thought I'd post my #1 tip for keeping our house clean: enlist help!

Now husbands are certainly enlist-able, and in my experience they are also pretty reliable, BUT the one disadvantage to enlisting husbands to help with cleaning is that they're never free Mon-Fri 8-5... maybe because they're busy with their real jobs, bringing home the bread.  ;)

So, that's where moms have to get creative.  Here's my creative solution to cleaning house: let the little ones help!  You see, I have a certain little boy following me around everywhere all day, and it never fails that he's almost always cleaning something {unless he's busy playing with his "true" toys}.  I've had a few older, wiser moms advise me to harness that cleaning want-to by continuing to let him help.. even if "helping" isn't incredibly helpful at first.

So that's what we've been doing.  Enoch loves being with me and helping, and I hope that as he gets older he'll enjoy getting to be more involved.  For now though, there are some simple ways that I let him help me clean everyday.  I thought I'd try to capture a few on camera since some of them are pretty cute and hilarious.

Cleaning the floor
Enoch is always finding anything that is left on the floor. Big chunks, microscopic crumbs, dehydrated food, etc.  In fact, I'd say his floor cleaning skills are better than that of any dog I've seen.  


Organizing Cabinets
This is one of Little Man's specialties!  He's been honing his technique for months now, and I'll say that he is quite an accomplished organizer!


Cleaning the Refrigerator
I know, I know... most people clean the inside of their fridge, but Enoch makes sure that the outside of ours stays nice and shiny too!  


Washing the Cabinets

This is also one of his specialties.  He is sure to get the surface nice and wet before polishing it dry... just like he does the fridge.  ;)


Cleaning the Hangers
Enoch is sure to clean the hangers each and every time we fold laundry.  He is so disciplined at this that I never have to worry about dusting them off myself.  



 And, when all of the hard work of cleaning is done, Enoch always has just enough energy for some reading.  


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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

R2G: Our Next Book...

Well, I'm excited to announce that the next book I'm hoping to read and blog though is... {drum roll please}...  Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God  by Noel Piper!!

Here's a short blurb about the book:

These are the stories of five ordinary women-Sarah Edwards, Lilias Trotter, Gladys Aylward, Esther Ahn Kim, and Helen Roseveare-who trusted in their extraordinary God as he led them to do great things for his kingdom. Noël Piper holds up their lives and deeds as examples of what it means to be truly faithful. Learning about these women will challenge readers to make a difference for Christ in their families, in the church, and throughout the world.


I'm pumped about this book for a few different reasons.  Let me tell you about them, and I'm sure you won't be able to resist reading it with me too!  First, Noel Piper is an EXCELLENT author!  She has a great writing style and is very enjoyable to follow.  Second, the book combines 5 short biographies of women from the past who were faithful in serving God {each in different ways}.  I absolutely love biographies because I find them inspiring and challenging.  And the third reason I'm excited about this new book is because I think it will have something for every woman who picks it up since it covers the lives of five uniquely gifted women.

Best of all, YOU DON'T HAVE TO BUY IT!!  {sorry, I didn't mean to yell that.. I just got excited!}  Check out the links below for a free version (you can read it on your computer, electronic reading device, or just print it).  If you do want to buy it, I don't think you'll regret spending the $10 because it is the kind of book that lends toward underlining, highlighting, starring, and dog-earing.  (:


You can read it free here {pdf format via Desiring God}
You can buy it from Amazon here

I would like to start reading it soon, but I realize that some of you may want some time to buy it and have it shipped.  So I plan to start in December.  There happen to be five main chapters {who would've thought?!?!}, and there also happen to be 5 Mondays in December, so let's try to read Chapter 1 by Monday, December 3rd!    Hopefully we can use December (and any down-time that the holidays provide) to read through the book.  Who knows, it may even give each of us some fodder for New Year's Resolutions.  :D


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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

We voted!!

We all went today & voted as a family. Thankful for this liberty we have, and praying that our hope will rest in the Lord, and Him alone, at the end of this monumental day... no matter who leads our country.




The king's heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord; he turns it wherever he will.  (Proverb 21:1)


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Monday, November 5, 2012

Dating or Engaged Resources


For those of you who are dating {hopefully with the intention of marriage} or are already engaged, you might want to check out these resources from Desiring God.   Both resources are free to download and easily accessible (no membership or anything special required)!!  Can't beat that!  




Preparing for Marriage (an ebook) by John Piper
About the book {from the DG website}:

     At Desiring God, one of our most accessed pages online is a set of questions John Piper put together for couples preparing for marriage (chapter 1 in this eBook). There is some of the typical stuff—like friends and entertainment and lifestyle and children—but many have found that John’s way of putting the question helps get right at some pretty deep stuff.
     And then there’s the questions about theology, worship and devotion, and the roles of husband and wife—questions that far too many couples don’t think to ask. When preparing for marriage, or even in just beginning to consider it, it is of immense help to have the perspective not only of a seasoned husband of over 40 years, but also a seasoned pastor and theologian.


This Momentary Marriage  by John Piper
About the book {from the DG website}:

The chasm between the biblical vision of marriage and the common human conception is—and has always been—gargantuan. Reflecting on over forty years of matrimony, John Piper exalts the biblical meaning of marriage over its emotion, exhorting couples to keep their covenant as a display of Christ’s covenant-keeping love for the church. He aims to lift the church’s low view of marriage to something infinitely greater, namely, a vision of Jesus’s unswerving allegiance to and affection for his bride. This Momentary Marriage unpacks the biblical vision, its unexpected contours, and its weighty implications for married, single, divorced, and remarried alike. Now available in paperback with a freshly redesigned cover, Piper’s book on marriage holds even greater appeal.


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Sunday, November 4, 2012

Enoch Live: using the walker

Enoch just figured out how to really use the walker this afternoon.  He isn't convinced yet that walking is more expedient than crawling, but I'm sure he'll get there soon!




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Friday, November 2, 2012

FFF: Putting the Pack N Play to Good Use!

When we bought our pack n play (used at Rhea Lana's), I planned to use it for traveling, mainly.  And indeed, it has been a good investment for that purpose, but lately we've been using it a lot more than expected in our own house!

Right now, the pack n play lives in our guest bathroom.  Might sound like an odd spot {and yes, it does make for a tight squeeze} but it works out perfect for this season of life.  You see, it turns out that with a few toys in the pack n play, Enoch loves hanging out in it!  And, since getting a shower in is one of my biggest challenges in my morning, we've started putting Enoch in the pack n play while I shower during his first awake time.  It works out great because he has some independent play time and I'm not "wasting" his nap time by showering {I mean, nap time is pretty valuable time... right Moms??}.  :)


I also love having it in the bathroom because getting Enoch a bath is now SO much easier!  I used to struggle to get his tub in the big tub and full while holding him on my hip.. or my lap... and it was just never an easy task!  But now I just plop him in the pack n play and we both enjoy the pre-bath time prep.  

In fact, here's a video of him walking around in it {during pre-bath prep} and trying to make a few animal sounds.  Let me preface by saying that the rhinoceros "sniffs" {through his nose} and the puppy "pants" {with his tongue}.  The fish didn't quite make this one but it is basically making a fish face {puckering your lips} and smacking {like a loud kissing sound}.  I apologize about how loud my fish sound is in the video... be prepared!  ;)


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On Choosing Life

our news that Enoch was coming almost 2 years ago

I've considered myself "pro-life" (against abortion) for many years now, but only recently have I truly began to get a good grasp of the deeper and very logical reasons for holding to the pro-life stance.   So, I wanted to link to a few pro-life resources that I have found incredibly helpful lately in thinking through why I choose life.  Some are general while some are linked more tightly to a particular political move.  I'll try to give a brief synopsis of each so that you can read the ones you think might interest you the most.



Why Your Friends Are 'Pro-Choice' (And What to Do About It).  October 31, by Scott Klusendorf.
This post is helpful for contemplating a common mix-up when discussing abortion: mixing up moral claims with preference claims.  For example, Klusendorf gives a strong rebuttal to this common stance:
"I'm against abortion and will never have one. If one of my friends gets pregnant and wants an abortion, I will do everything I can to talk her out of it. But I don't want the government involved in taking away a woman's choice. I guess that's why I'm against abortion and am pro-choice."
If you are unsure how to answer a person with a similar concern, check out his explanation in the post above.


Pro-Life Resources. August 31, by Kevin DeYoung
Kevin DeYoung recommends two useful books as excellent pro-life resources in this post.  Here is an example of one of the arguments against abortion {quoted from one of the books he recommends}:

Use the acronym SLED. Size: are big people more human than small people? Level of Development: Does self-awareness make us human? Are older children more valuable than infants? Are those with dementia less valuable? Environment: Do your surroundings determine your humanity? How can a journey eight inches down the birth canal change the essential nature of the child? Degree of Dependency: Does viability make us human? Are newborns or those who need dialysis not deserving of human rights? (28)


And I also thought this was a helpful comparison in considering why the fight against abortion is so important:

This is not the time for pro-lifers to slacken in their efforts from fetus fatigue. Between 1973 and 2005 American women procured an estimated 48, 589, 993 abortions. The bloodiest single-day battle in American history was at Antietam in 1862, where 23,000 Americans lost their lives. It was an mind-boggling loss of life. Now imagine another Antietam every five or six days for 32 straight years. That’s how many unborn children died from 1973 to 2005. And they did not die for the abolition of slavery, nor for the preservation of the Union.



Questions for our Pro-Abortion Friends, Church Leaders, and Politians.  August 29, by Kevin DeYoung
This post has much more of a prose feel, and it is full of thoughtful questions with logic that (seems to) issue forth from the books he recommended in the other post (above).  Here is a sample:

    If the unborn life is human life, what can justify snuffing it out? Would it be right to take the life of your child on his first birthday because he came to you through sad and tragic circumstances? Would you push an 18 month old into traffic because she makes our life difficult? Does a three year-old deserve to die because we think we deserve a choice?
    What do you deserve now? What are your rights as a human person? Did you have those same rights five years ago? What about before you could drive? Or when you used training wheels? Were you less than fully human when you played in the sandbox? When you wore a bib? When you nursed at your mother’s breast? When your dad cut your cord? When you tumbled in that watery mess and kicked against that funny wall? When your heart pounded on the monitor for the first time? When you grew your first fingernails? When you grew your first cells?
    What shall we call the child in the womb? A fetus? A mystery? A mistake? A wedge issue? What if science and Scripture and commonsense would have us call it a person? What if the unborn child, the messy infant, the wobbly toddler, the rambunctious teenager, the college freshman, the blushing bride, the first-time mother, the working woman, the proud grammy, and the demented old friend differ not in kind but only in degree? Where in the progression does our humanity begin and end? Where does life become valuable? When are we worth something? When do human rights become our rights? What if Dr. Seuss was right and a person’s a person no matter how small?
    Why celebrate the right to kill what you once were? Why deny the rights of the little one who is what you are?


Exceptions for Abortion?  October 26, by Justin Taylor
This is an excellent and thoughtful piece by Taylor which handles the specific incident where Richard Mourdock {running for Senate} stood behind his statement that rape was not a legitimate reason for abortion.  As usual, Taylor pulls together this post with many helpful snippets from others to address Mourdock's statement.  He also addresses where Christians should fall on the issue of whether or not exceptions for abortion should be legally allowed as well as helpful ways to discuss our worldview regarding abortion with others.  It is definitely a helpful piece in more ways than one.



5 Ways Presidents Affect the Pro-Life Cause.  November 2, by Joe Carter
And if you weren't convinced yet that who is elected as President of the US matters significantly in the fight for the sanctity of every human life, check out what Joe Carter has to say.



All of these posts (and probably more) can be found on The Gospel Coalition's website:  http://thegospelcoalition.org/

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Thursday, November 1, 2012

Mothering Men?

I loved reading this blog post by Kevin DeYoung earlier today!   He did a great job highlighting many of the take-aways from an article that was based on a book called Do Men Mother?  I realize that a blog written about an article that was written about a book seems to be a long chain of communication..  but I just had to share it because I feel it is such an important topic right now.




So let me cut right to the chase...  Here's the jest of the article:  Men are made to be fatherswomen are made to be mothers.  Their roles are different AND integral for a child's development.


It may seem pretty simple, but let's be just honest, these types of simple, plain articles are clarifying and relevant in a day and time where the basic institution of marriage is being questioned AND "normal" reproduction is becoming less and less the norm, thanks to reproductive technologies which allow for any number of parenting possibilities {see Al Mohler's article below}.

So, like I was saying, simple findings but very relevant.  From Jenet's article:

But are fathers and mothers really the same? Do mothers “father” and do fathers “mother” in the same way the other would do?
Canadian scholar, Andrea Doucet, has explored this question in her book Do Men Mother? Her extensive research with 118 male primary caregivers, including stay-at-home dads, led her to conclude that fathers do not “mother.” And that’s a good thing. Although mothering and fathering have much in common, there were persistent, critical differences that were important for children’s development.
I also appreciated how Jenet carefully addressed the reality of single parents while insisting that the findings still stand as important and valid.  Here's her take on it:

Arguments for the non-essential father may reflect an effort to accept the reality that many children today grow up without their dads. But surely a more effective and compassionate approach would be to acknowledge the unique contributions of both mothers and fathers in their children’s lives, and then do what we can to ensure that becomes a reality for more children.


Go check out the rest of her article or DeYoung's blog for specific examples of how mothers and fathers differ in their roles.  I found it quite true for Hugh and I {& even a bit humorous at times}.  :)  




Special thanks to Kevin DeYoung for his blog post and the above photo {which I believe came from the NY Times}.  Post found here: Do Men Mother?
The article he references is by Jenet Erickson and can be found here:  Men Don't Mother
The book she references is by Andrea Doucet and can be found here: Do Men Mother?
An article by Al Mohler on the parenting issues arising from reproductive technologies can be found here: Where Did I Come From? - It's No Longer A Simple Question
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